Guys, gather here. We need to talk. All women are the experts of their bodies. We men, will never grasp the magnitude of the challenges they undergo to simply exist on this earth and still be the amazing people we harass all over the place. Now, since we were kids, we were socialized to think […]
The first time I had sex I was 20. With 5 years’ experience in masturbation. I got an STI. She manipulated me into sleeping with her. With mandazi. Yes, mandazi. I was a nervous wreck in that bed. Called me a coward for not ejaculating inside her. It hurt. But I was used to insults […]
Daddy and me, first years Unspoken traumas. When I was 5, daddy would put me up on our living room table whenever he was home, switch his Sanyo radio on and ask me to dance for him to soukouss and rhumba hits. We took evening walks around the neighborhood, visiting his friends’ houses while holding […]
Here’s a list of common mental health conditions. Anxiety Anxiety is a normal and often healthy emotion. However, when a person regularly feels disproportionate levels of anxiety, it might become a medical disorder. Anxiety disorders form a category of mental health diagnoses that lead to excessive nervousness, fear, apprehension, and worry. These disorders alter how a person processes […]
At The Bar My partner and I entered a bar to catch a drink one evening in 2018. We had spent some incredible hours facilitating a gender workshop and thought it fine to enjoy a band over some light conversation while supping some refreshments. The band strapped the evening with their vast swathes of Congolese […]
How much about your mental health do you know? I’ll tell you one thing; both birth and death are painful. In between them is a window of opportunity. A moment in space where you exist in the physical realm. We all get different time. Some stay for hours, some days, some for years. What do […]
Cutting my father off has been one of the most excruciating decisions I’ve had to make. I used to wait and wait for better nights when he’d come home with a smile on his face and sit us down and tell stories from his heart and embrace us and teach us things fathers teach their […]
